There’s no right or wrong way to do motherhood, and there are as many different styles as there are moms in the world. For many women, raising children is only part of the story: Career, creative passions and kids are all part of the grand mix that makes them who they are. We talked to two mothers about their journey to go back to work — and how they find happiness in doing it all.
Sabrina Houser: Double the Jobs, Double the Kids, Double the Joy
In addition to raising two children, Sabrina Houser is the CEO of Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Capital Region in Albany, NY. She’s been committed to the mission of BBBSCR since she was a Big Sister herself nearly 20 years ago, and she works tirelessly to make sure that all children get the love and support that she values in her own family. She also runs her own company, Capital CFO, LLC. Her commitment to two major organizations allows her to fulfill two sides of her personality: the do-gooder and the number-cruncher. Every Sunday, Sabrina pours herself into a new post for her personal blog, Childhood Take 2.
If Sabrina seems busy, it’s because she is. She admits that juggling work and family can be challenging. “There are many balls in the air and if something drops, it’s kind of a big deal. I work a lot, and since I also need to see my children, that means I make a lot of sacrifices. There are times I am bone tired.”
Still, Sabrina could never imagine giving up any of her passions. “My career is a part of me. Working is who I am, just like being a mom is who I am. I wouldn’t have a part of me if I didn’t have my career. I wouldn’t be me.”
Sabrina’s advice for other moms: “Laugh a lot! It’s the only way to get through this.”
Lauren Koster: A Creative Calling and Lots of Lists
Lauren Koster is a handbag designer for The Sak, and the principal at her own wedding planning company, I Love Love Events. She also blogs about all her creative endeavors at Undeclared Panacheand is devoted to her young son, Oliver. She views motherhood as her most important job, but her creative work is a call that must also be answered for her to be a whole person.
From Lauren’s perspective, being a working mom allows her to set a great example for her son. “I want my son to see his mom being a hardworking ‘girl boss.’ I hope when he grows up, women are on an equal playing field with men, and I want him to grow up seeing that in our house.”
Lauren’s long commute and busy schedule mean that weekdays are packed. She makes sure that the weekends are free for family time by staying focused and organized. “I make a lot of lists, and I like to give myself an allotted amount of time to work on things. For example, I’ll set the timer on my phone for a half hour, put on some good music and clean my heart out until the alarm goes off.”