How Much Should You Spend on a Gift for Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend?

By Rachel Castro /

Gift-giving in any relationship can be tricky, but when it comes to a gift for your boyfriend or girlfriend, figuring out how much to spend can be downright daunting.

When you’re making the decision about the price tag, first think about these things:

  • How long you’ve been together
  • Your income
  • How much you normally spend when you go on a date
  • How much you feel comfortable spending

0-4 months: Keep your budget modest, but consider making the gift personalized to score extra points.

When you first start dating someone, you’re not likely to spend more on a gift for them than you would for your close friends and family. Don’t feel pressured into spending more than you are comfortable with. If you do, you could make your girlfriend or boyfriend equally uncomfortable if the gift is prematurely extravagant.

The other foolproof trick to gifting is to make it personal. If your relationship is still new, don’t worry about spending a lot on the gift, instead, make it something that relates to your budding relationship. Think about something that you talked about on your first date or an inside joke that you have and get a gift that relates to it. You’ll win points for being thoughtful, no matter the price tag.

Gift Ideas for New Relationships:

Rule of thumb? Keep it lighthearted, fun, and below $50.

4-12 months: Spend what you would spend on a typical date night.

For someone you’ve been dating for awhile—more than four months— it might be hard to gauge exactly how much you should be spending on them. But you’re in luck. At this time frame, you’re likely to know a lot more about your boo’s interests and favorite things, which makes gift giving a lot easier.

Gifts Ideas for Evolving Relationships:

Rule of thumb? Gift something that’s stylish, useful, and under $150. 

12+ months: It’s time to make the jump to a significant, larger gift.

The longer you’ve been together, the farther along that friend to family continuum your significant other will move. And as your “dates” get more inexpensive (pizza and a movie on the couch counts as a date, right?) the more you’re going to want to spend on a gift.

Gift Ideas for Established Relationships:

Rule of thumb? Well, you probably know your relationship better than us at this point! Take your best guess.

 There’s no mathematical equation that tells you how much you should spend. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? The good news is, as long as you stay true to your instincts, generally, you won’t go wrong.

Still stumped? Check out our gift guides for her or him.

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