Are you a “yes” woman? Do you hastily commit to sh*t that you don’t even want to do because you feel obligated to show up for friends, family, or acquaintances? You’re not alone. Here are our best tips for finding a happy medium between being busy and burnt out.
Schedule your personal time
Even if it’s 20 minutes every Friday to take a bubble bath, scheduling out personal time is crucial. It allows you to turn down any and all plans that happen to fall within that sacred span of time, and is an excuse to say ‘Sorry, I’m busy.” or “I can’t make it tonight, I have other plans.”
Don’t say “yes” right away
Before you commit to a night of karaoke or a coworker’s going away party, consider if you’d actually enjoy being there. You’re not a bad person for turning down drinks with the girls to stay in and eat pizza on the couch by yourself. It’s called self-care, ok?
If you have to “squeeze it in,” just say no
When someone asks you to do something and you start to think, “Maybe I can squeeze this in between work, my son’s little league game, and going to the gym,” then it’s probably a good idea to politely decline. Having zero time to transition between one engagement to another is a surefire way to stress yourself out.
Establish your priorities
What truly matters to you? Make a list of your top five values. If an upcoming engagement doesn’t coincide with those values, reevaluate if it’s worth your time to attend; and don’t feel guilty! There are only 24 hours in a day and you have a lot of stuff you need to accomplish.
Let go of guilt
Don’t feel bad for skipping out on engagements in the name of mental stability or personal relaxation. You deserve to kick your feet back, relax, and spend some time with yourself- even if it’s just for a little while.